Every civilization has considered the best way to live, which is paramount to any spiritual quest, but the present culture is more interested in how we want to live than in the best way to live. Personal preference has triumphed over excellence . . .
Relativism claims no best way to live, because it is different for everyone as we factor place and time for each person with roles, needs, hopes, desires and responsabilities. Consider the commonality: holiness, virtue and self control.
The best way to live should help us to become what God created us to be. We live to help others become what God created them to be, if we love and serve God and our neighbor.
Great philosophers, such as Kant, Aquinas, Descartes e Aristotele, agreed virtue is the best way to live. Two patient people will have a better relationship than two impatient people, likewise for two generous people and two humble people. Every societal aspect – families, organizations, communities, and nations – are an extension and multiplication of the relationship. The benefit of virtue affects other people, since anything we think, say and do affects other people.
Self control can delay gratification, but some contemporary philosophies, such as hedonism and relativism, may erode the ability to delay gratification.