Humility places God and neighbor before us; rather than, “Me first,” humility allows us to say, “No, you first, my friend,” and meet the needs and demands of others.
Humility is a major biblical theme because allows peace and harmony, dissipates anger, heals old wounds, and regards human dignity. Humility affirms inherent human worth.
“It is better to be of a humble spirit with the lowly, than to divide the spoil with the proud.” (Proverbs 16:19)
Humility brings wisdom and pride dishonor.
“But the greatest among you shall be your servant. And whoever exalts himself shall be humbled and whoever humbles himself shall be exalted.” (Matthew 23:11-12)
“Truly I say to you, unless you are converted and become like children, you shall not enter the kingdom of heaven. Whoever then humbles himself as this child, he is the greatest in the kingdom of heaven.” (Matthew 18:2-4)
The Golden Rule contains much wisdom. If we wish to be loved, we must love, and if we wish to be respected, we must respect, even those we despise. If we wish to be fulfilled, we must share generously.
Words may influence human relationships, including war or peace, for words have tremendous power over good or evil. Gossip harms someone’s reputation, and we must prevent and avoid character assassination. We should look for virtues in others and try to correct our vices, for judgment belongs to God.
Nobody makes us angry, because anger is our own emotional response to events, and is sometimes based on event misinterpretation. Anger may block communication and escalate hostility.
It is easy to react to annoyance and disappointment with anger. React with understanding and empathy, because we can settle disputes and avoid turning minor incidents in major conflicts. Humility prevents dispute and hard feeling.
“A fool always loses his temper, but a wise man holds it back.” (Proverbs 29:11).
“Everyone should be quick to listen, slow to speak and slow to become angry, for man’s anger does not bring about the righteous life that God desires.” (James 1:19-20)
A grudge deprives us of energy, consumes us with hatred, hurts enjoyment of life, clouds our judgment and may lead us to revenge. Bearing a grudge and seeking revenge are inappropriate responses. Jesus asked us to forgive and reconcile with our adversaries, and dissipate anger.
“‘Do not seek revenge or bear a grudge against one of your people, but love your neighbor as yourself. I am the LORD.” (Leviticus 19:18)
“An angry man stirs up dissension, and a hot-tempered one commits many sins.” (Proverbs 29:22)
We may break a cycle of hatred and convert our enemies into friends when we respond with empathy and love.
“There is a saying, ‘Love your friends and hate your enemies.’ But I say: Love your enemies! Pray for those who persecute you! In that way you will be acting as true sons of your Father in heaven. For he gives his sunlight to both the evil and the good, and sends rain on the just and on the unjust too. If you love only those who love you, what good is that? Even scoundrels do that much. If you are friendly only to your friends, how are you different from anyone else? Even the heathen do that. But you are to be perfect, even as your Father in heaven is perfect.” (Matthew 5:43-48)